Mourning by Jake Giddens
n. the moment of realization that your quintessential self isn’t going to show up, which forces the role to fall upon the understudy, the humble kid for whom nothing is easy, who has spent years mouthing their lines in the wings before stumbling out into the glare of your life, which by then is already well into its second act.
|Straight White Guys:||It's not racist. The reason why most characters are straight white guys is it's a business. They just want to do what makes the most money. No one's being racist or sexist. It's just smart business.|
|Straight White Guys:||Having a Black Captain America or Pakistani Ms. Marvel or female Thor is PANDERING. All they're trying to do is get MONEY from you. It's just a marketing ploy! This is horrible!|
A 1967 essay by the British child psychologist Donald Winnicott, “Delinquency as a Sign of Hope,” proposes that bad or anti-social behavior betrays an underlying optimism. Winnicott’s idea is that a child may be deprived of some of the things it needs to flourish, it may suffer from withdrawals or failures of communication, but by expressing itself in a “delinquent” way, the child nonetheless must imagine that its world (its family, its school, its playground) is a safe enough place that the expression of its frustrations will in some way be heard. Delinquents have hope; they can be helped. On the other hand, complacent children–those who do what they’re told, who never act up, who don’t scream and cry and rage–they have no hope; for now, they are beyond repair.
Here as always, Winnicott’s imperative to other care-givers is to listen. He reminds us that so-called “bad” behaviors are not the work of bad people; they’re the work of good enough people put under terrible pressures. Those of us living with less or different pressures need to be able to hear the optimism that beats beneath the cries of protest, like the sound of the ocean crashing in a sea shell, if only we pull it close enough to our ear.
People who protest are full of anger. That anger is an achievement. It means that all is not lost, that no matter how racist and venal and fucked up our circumstances are, people want them to be better. Listen to that.
—Jordan Alexander Stein
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